Hellooo
I met my boyfriend about 3 months ago, pulling him off my best friend in a club because she had a boyfriend. we got talking and REALLY connected. got together and have been together a month, the connection we have is intense and very strong. Thats probably why he decided, a week before he went to uni, to start a relationship with me. we both knew it wasnt a fling sort of thing, and both wanted a lot more.
I see him often, about once a fortnight if we both have money. i LOVE it when im there, or he's here :) its just perfect, in every way. i hate it when hes not, and recently its become a lot harder. Im going to uni myself and although im applying to where he is (through my own choice, not purely because hes in the same city) there is little chance ill go there. Ive applied to 4 other places, and basically my problem is this
long distance is very hard at the moment
when i go to uni, if its still long distance, it will be hard
hes going to spain for a year in 2 years, for his year abroad at uni. Ill be doing the same, but in 1 year but to italy.
he doesnt want to live in england when hes graduated and working, he wants to move to egypt or spain.
his mum and dad are in a long distance relationship, and i see myself heading in the same direction as his mum and if i cant bear it now, its not the kind of life i want for myself either. but i love him, and im not naive enough to think hes the guy ill spend the REST of my life with, but it seems that way at the moment. he talks so openly, unlike anyother guy ive met, and you can tell he honestly sees us together long term. he often says he wants us to get through anything, and talks about the future and refuses to think about me not in it. he calls and texts everyday without fail, and i trust him completely. but if i dont want the long distance thing to last for the rest of my life, should i carry our relationship on for now or not? because the deeper i get into it, the harder it will be.
HELP PLEASE! :( advice?
ps no patronising comments please about how long we've been together. his mum and dad got married after 3 months and have been together 20 years, its not length of time, its feelings and i know that. but any help appreciated! :)
Answer on Advice needed, long distance relationship - no end in sight? :/?
I honestly have nothing negative to say to you about your feelings, I know how you feel. Long distance can be complicated but Love will push through anything. I think that if you can get into school semi close to each other you will be happier but It will be ok if you need closer. He will want you happy I am sure no matter what based on what I know. You have to follow your heart! Everything else will fall into place!
