My SIL hates me. She's best friends with my husbands ex wife and his wife hates me to. Well she is always trying to stick stuff in his head or calling him to invite him over to drink. She lives right next door to his ex wife. Well de does go to her house when we're arguing and drinks and even spends the night over there. This hurts me so much. His sister texts me and calls me all kinds of names like lesbo, ***** whore, psycho and whatever else you can think of. He doesn't stick up for me or tell her anything. Well today I asked him when she was moving to Italy. He told me she wasn't going to but somewhere in the US. This started an argument. He asked me why and I told him " so she can stay out of our business". Well I was upset and called her a ***** and he was outraged and pissed off, he left the restaurant we were eating at. He told me she was his blood. I don't understand this. They barely started talking about a month ago after not speaking for two years because he hated her for some reason. I knew it was going to cause problems if they started talking and sure enough it has. I don't want to keep him from his sister, but she has no respect for me and he does not stick up for me. My heart is broken. My marriage is falling apart. She sticks stuff in his head and then he comes at me with all these stupid things. She tells him I'm mental and he says I need help. I know I'm perfectly sane. She's only 20 years old and he's 32. He's listening to what a child has to say. What should I do? I'm already fed up. I've been there for him no matter what and this is how I get repaid.
Answer on My husband's sister hates me and he doesn't stick up for me!?
Never bring his sister, his family or his ex up in ANY conversation. You can win your husband over by being very sweet and kind to him. Tell him how much you love him and how hard you want to make your marriage work.
Tell him you are sorry for bringing up his sister which eventually ruined your nice dinner.
For now on try to make your marriage work. You married him and not his sister or family. Start fresh and new like nothing has ever happened.
Do not bring ANYTHING up again. Never bring up the past. From now on tell him how HE made you feel. Your feelings from now on. Don't tell him how your sister made you feel or how his ex made you feel. How HE made you feel about any situations. Once you talk it out. SQUASH IT! Don't bring it up again. Just try to make it work. Its better that one of you are doing your part and he will follow. You will see.
A successful marriage is TWO great forgivers, TWO great communicators and TWO people who love each other.
